002: Acceptance and Ignorance is Bliss.
Okay yes, been a while. About 150 odd days.. The Gap has been for multiple reasons but I’ll put it on not having a good resolution score 🙈.
First of all, hope everyone is fine at home. These last 2–3 months were obviously very testing and difficult. We can only be grateful for the position we are in, to be able to get up, eat, sleep and work everyday throughout this period. Hope everything is fine.
Life is a puzzle which is made up by small pieces. You have some constant people in your life being Family, and a group of friends! While this would constitute a very small percentage of people and things we interact with on a daily basis. There are lot of people and events that are not there for a long time but leave a lasting influence or teach life lessons. It is these little things which adds flavour , which adds perspectives and sometimes realisation in this mystery called life.
Okay, so let me talk about an event which happened recently in my life. I was in a relationship a few years ago. A frosty relationship though. But we’d broken up for a long time. Maybe 3–4 years now. Then in an unexpected turn of events, we crossed paths again unexpectedly.
Talking a little about our relationship, we were in a relationship but over time things weren’t working out as well. Though I wouldn’t want to name this Person, let me call it as Ex or X. Both of us, didn’t like each others presence. In fact, we both would now scare each other out if we crossed paths trying to avoid each other. Trying to forget all those memories that were there while it lasted. Yes, it had become frosty, it was still affecting both of us and that had to stop.
Coming to this recent incident, after a long time gap. I had almost forgotten about it.. Not sure about X. And so we unexpectedly met. And it didn’t last long. Maybe 2 minutes. But those 2 minutes were different. I had realised that X’s presence had stopped affecting me. Probably X also felt similarly. There was a silence. Probably a feeling of acceptance and ignorance. Acceptance that we both had met again, and Ignorance for the past that we had. It all lasted two minutes and it felt as if we were complete strangers and it was over.
On a little introspection of that meet, I realised a few things about life. I could’ve reacted differently. X’s presence in those moments was like an ‘uncontrollable' situation in our life. Best thing to do was accept and ignore. It’s about many problems and situations in life. If there’s something you can do about it, well do it. And most of our problems/ situations are never in our control, the thing to do is accept the situation , ignore the situation if it can be. Why bother ourself when we are mere actors of the play and not the script writer. Just go with the flow and see how it ends. Most times we spoil these situations by reacting / thinking about these situations. Rather, if we just accept it as it is, we’ll find it easier to navigate through it. If it does affect us adversely, It’s important to know it’s not your fault. It’s just luck. If the loss is very significant, don’t blame. Accept and give it time. Time heals everything, most times involuntarily.
So yeah, sometimes small 2 minute incidents can make you philosophical. Well yes if you’re wondering who this X is… A cockroach. 🤣 The 2 min incident was when I had to use the bathroom last night and we crossed each others path. I hadn’t seen a cockroach this big ever since I moved into this home for about 4 years and then unexpectedly in the middle of the night you meet 🤣. Both of us could’ve felt we could have harmed each other. But we just acknowledged each others presence and ignored everything else 😊.
There’s a second layer to it but it’ll become longer (Though it already is 🤣). So saving it for later 😉
Stay safe, take care
Thanks
Hitesh
P.S.
My Resolution X has a bad score on aggregate for 150 days of the year. But over the last 20 days, it’s been above 50%. So yeah it’s getting better.